Have you ever wondered, or perhaps even contemplated, that we are constantly starting anew! Why is that? Why don't we ever reach the end of something? Why do we procrastinate and make promises? Why do we just daydream? Here are a few well-known and possible reasons:
- Inconsiderate determination of the time factor (Too long a time).
- Postponing too long a time, e.g., this year I will run, move, lose weight, collect etc. every day. Then the 'tomorrow' symptoms come into play: we can start something tomorrow, we can finish something tomorrow. So what needs to be done today is shifted to the future. This thought initially provides an excuse for not completing the planned action because the time span is too long and this leads to not feeling the sense of loss since I'll start tomorrow. Yet today is what counts; this is the only timeframe that can be controlled! The past and the future are uncontrollable and unforeseeable time spans. Then the 'tomorrow' symptoms occur.
- Not putting enough energy into the decision.
- After the resolution, we start with great intensity, but unfortunately our momentum significantly decreases after about 5 days and then dries up.
Because of this, we can chalk up the promise we made to ourselves as a failure. Sooner or later, this will result in tension within us. At such times, we often receive or find many guides that no longer work for us, whether we asked for them or not.
The primary advice for the above issues is often,
- Focus more on your goal.
- Keep in mind what you want.
- Don't forget your intention.
If we look honestly within ourselves, we know this hasn't helped most of us much.
Among those who advise through questioning, it's common to hear,
- Your goal wasn't strong enough.
- You didn't want it enough.
The problem with this is that we all wanted to achieve the goal, the desired result, but it didn't come true, we didn't get where we wanted. We need to first identify all the goals, desires, and desired states we have not achieved. Write them down. How many of these have you had in your life since you've been aware that you exist? Simply list them, bring them to light, and face them. They will disappear and you will be free from their captivity. This is the first step to freeing yourself from the cycle of constantly starting anew. If you need help with this because you can't cope alone, please schedule an appointment and I will help you with it - send me an email.